In an Emergency, Always Dial 911

If you need help quickly, call Tubman’s 24-hour crisis line:
612-825-0000 (West Metro)
651-770-0777 (East Metro)

Download a printable booklet about domestic violence.

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Warning Signs of Abuse

People who are abusive often exhibit “warning signs” of this type of behavior. One or two signs do not make someone an abuser, but beware of someone who shows multiple warning signs:

Safety Tips for an Explosive Situation

• Don't get trapped: if an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room with an easy exit.
• Practice escapes: practice how to get out of your home safely.
• Always be packed and ready to go: have a packed bag ready and hidden.
• Use codes: choose a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need the police.
• Know where you are going: plan and decide where you will go first if you must leave home.
• Trust your instincts: if the situation feels dangerous, do what you can to calm things down, even if this means giving in to your partner. You have the right to protect yourself until you are out of danger.
  
  
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If you think that someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, you can help them by calling Tubman’s 24-hour help line:
651-770-0777 (East Metro)
612-825-0000 (West Metro)

What to do if someone comes to you for help

You may know someone who is a victim of domestic violence. They may be looking for someone to talk to and may have chosen you. The following list of “do's” and “don'ts” may be helpful. 



Leaving an abusive situation is potentially a dangerous time. Violence could dramatically escalate when you try to leave or show signs of independence. Your partner could become desperate at the thought of losing control of you, causing the violence to escalate. However, there are things you can do to reduce the risk of harm.

Family violence is not only about hitting, punching, or yelling, and it's not just about anger. It is about a lack of balance of power and control in yourself and your relationships.